I'm the first to put my hands up and say I was the first to blame and point the finger as to why things may not have worked out for me.
I've thankfully moved on from this way of thinking.
A lot of us tend to justify our behaviour to ourselves by saying, it's ok for me to behave in a certain way because of the "situation" I was in.
What many people struggle with is gathering perspective on their problems.
The majority of the time we only ever see things from one perspective. Our own!!!!
As valuable as it is, it's equally as valuable to get a few different viewpoints as well as our own.
I use some of my mentors for constructive feedback and also quiz those that I work with about what's working and anything that might not be.
I was always open to adapting, most of the time. When I was an athlete it was about being able to shift a technical or physical process, rarely was it addressed on my mental perspective. The latter was the limiting factor.
Everyone's view is valuable. However be careful that you don't lose sight of the bigger picture. Sometimes a problem that can start off small can be extrapolated due to our perspective. If we continue to look at it in this way it can make it more challenging to resolve a solution.
Being, flexible, adaptable will see you reaching your end goal in a better frame of mind.
A few tools that are useful is.
- Look at it from the other person's point of view
- Is the way you're viewing and tackling the problem working.
- How flexible are you with your approach?